Self-Love: How to Write a Love Letter to Yourself
Give the gift of self-love this Valentine's Day. Why? Because when you love yourself, life becomes that little bit sweeter. We often forget that the most important relationship we have is the one we have with ourselves. So, make this Valentine's Day all about you. Your happiness ultimately lies in the amount of love you show yourself. One of the ways to nurture positive feelings is to write a love letter to yourself. If you’re unsure on how to write a love letter to yourself, just keep reading, plus we’ve received some beautiful love notes from our Pour Moi Ambassadors to inspire you.
How to write a love letter
Take some time to prepare before you start writing your love letter to yourself. Find a quiet, peaceful place that you feel completely comfortable and at ease. Before writing, sit with your feelings for a moment. This might feel uncomfortable but speak to yourself like your best friend would. ‘Hey girl! How are you doing? How are you feeling? What’s going on?’ Spend time doing this until you feel you’re ready to start writing.
You want this letter to be as truthful and personal as possible. Whilst using a pen and paper to write your love letter feels more romantic and nostalgic, use your laptop or phone if that’s more convenient to you.
Reflect on your relationship with yourself. Let go of your insecurities. Your love note is intended to share all of things that make you unique, perfect and YOU! Have you ever apologised to yourself for all the negative ways you think or talk about yourself? Start your love note by letting go of all the mistakes and things you may have done or said in your past that you’re still holding on to. Forgive yourself.
“Dear Body, I haven't always been kind to you nor looked after you the way I should have. Yet, you have given me two healthy children and are getting me through these tough times, we currently live in. So, thank you! I promise to nourish and care for you. Love and cherish your bodies ladies and embrace them because they are all amazing no matter the size, shape, or colour. #LovesEverybody”
@glamamuma
There’s no specific formula to writing a love letter to yourself. Let your writing flow from your feelings and inspiration in that given moment. Write down all the things that make you special. If you find this difficult, channel your inner best friend with encouraging, supportive and positive messages such as:
- You deserve it because…
- I’m proud of you because…
- I’m grateful to you because…
- You are strong and will get through this because…
- My body is amazing because…
“Over the years, I have been my own worst critic and my biggest fan. The relationship I've had with my body is nowhere near linear. Ups and downs, weeks, and months, hating and loving myself. I see you now for the beauty you possess. You let me dance, walk, run, hug, sleep, smile, cry and see life as I know it. I wish I didn't spend years of my life resenting you for existing as you do. I wish I saw you as I do now much earlier on in life. And I hope by reading this, you are reminded that you are so lucky to be in your body you have and be able to live and experience through it.”
@styledby.chloe
It’s time to thank yourself. Include thank you notes throughout your love letter for all the great things you have said, done or felt. If you are unsure on what to write, we’ve included some prompts below:
- Thank you for always being there for me
- Thank you for being who you are
“Firstly, I want to say well done as you’ve been on a journey. You’ve been laughed at, spoken about, judged, and neglected. However, within recent years of this self-love journey I have accepted every scar, stretch mark and curve on my body and I have decided to share this with my audience. I am thankful that you didn’t give up and hide away like some people would’ve wanted you to. Your confidence now shines through, and you have proven to everyone that had something to say about you wrong. You are now an inspiration to people who are currently on their own journey and it’s only up from here.”
@simply.siggy
You’ve done the hard part! But it doesn’t finish after writing, read your love letter every time you need a dose of positivity and self-love. By reading your love letter regularly it will help you realise how amazing you are.
“ Roses are red, violets are purple not blue, I’m sorry it’s taken this long to tell you I truly do, Love you! I’m sorry I never listened, it was never my intention not to, I just really struggled to understand your body language, and it effected how I saw you. You have always tried your best, even when I haven't done the same. You will continue to do your best, and still I felt so much shame. Today I realised something dear body after all the battles and scars, the comfort eating so I could avoid speaking about my feelings, was in fact self-sabotage. The hiding under oversized clothes, if I really had to be seen, sure it felt safe but not as safe as being at home and unseen. Where I could reinvent your shape using an editing tool, to post great versions well in my opinion anyway, tell me body who was really the fool? Today I say thank you dear body, for having patience while I learnt all the secrets to a happy life with you, I had to mess up a few times to see that there was nothing wrong with you. Let’s keep growing, I will do better by you dear body.”
@iamlekenah
For an extra dose of self-love, why not treat yourself to a beautiful new lingerie set or some dreamy nightwear? If you are celebrating Galentine’s Day this year, check out our Galentine’s Day blog for inspiration on how to celebrate the day with your besties.